As we near the holiday season, it is important to recognize that it can bring about a lot of different emotions. While it is a time for joy, festivities, and delicious food, it can also create stress and sadness. These emotions can stem from many factors, such as hectic schedules, financial worries related to holiday shopping, reminders of lost loved ones, strained relationships, and concerns about overindulging in holiday treats. However, it is possible to navigate and balance these stressors by being mindful and taking initiative.
Create a Coping Menu
When we find ourselves overwhelmed with intense emotions and stress, it can be challenging to remember our coping mechanisms. One helpful strategy is to create a 'Coping Menu' that lists all the tools and techniques we can turn to in times of need. Keeping a copy of this menu in accessible places, such as our phones, refrigerators, cars, purses, or wallets, can serve as a reminder of the resources available to us.
Setting Boundaries
Setting and communicating boundaries and preferences can be helpful in managing holiday-related stress. Each of us has limits. It is important to recognize what we can and cannot do in a certain amount of time. Politely declining offers and invitations, rather than overextending ourselves, can prevent burnout and unnecessary strain.
Communicate
It can also be helpful to engage in open discussions with household members and family to gauge everyone's expectations and preferences.
Before the holidays, chat with your loved ones about:
- Cooking responsibilities
- Managing leftovers
- Assigning cleaning duties
- Managing schedules for multiple events
- Creating guidelines for conversations, including topics like politics, current events, and personal matters.
Being Budget Conscious
Establishing a clear budget for gift-giving and considering alternatives such as a family Secret Santa can ease financial pressures while maintaining the tradition of exchanging gifts.
Add Structure
Add structure into family gatherings by planning activities and games. This can add an element of enjoyment and reduce potential tension. Additionally, acknowledging and honoring the absence of loved ones by sharing memories, preparing special dishes, and creating meaningful rituals can offer solace to those who are grieving during the holidays.
The key to a successful and mentally healthy holiday season lies in initiative-taking, planning and effective communication of our needs and boundaries. As we spend more time with our loved ones, it is vital to consider what we wish to experience – or avoid – and work towards achieving a holiday season that fosters mental wellness for all.
Victoria Zielinski, LCSW
Victoria Zielinski, LCSW, is a behavioral health provider at the Health Center at Printers Parkway, 340. She believes in an integrated approach to medicine by educating her patients about the interconnection of mind, body, and spirit. Victoria employs guided learning through self-governance that is based on mutual trust and respect.
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